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So I started sugaring recently. I had heard about it on some online article and saw that students were using it to help them pay for school which was great. I did more research on it and wanted to try it out for myself. But like it was a lot harder than I thought and now that I have a sugar daddy I'm feeling really guilty about it. The thing is...I have a boyfriend that I've been with for 2 years. We dated in high school but moved to different cities for school but we never actually broke up. We promised each other that we would be together and that if we ever wanted to break up or found someone else then we would tell each other first. We talk all the time and visit each other whenever we have breaks but I haven't told him that I'm dating someone else either...I feel really bad for lying to him but I really really need the money and I like hanging out with my sugar daddy too. What should I do? Do I tell him or just keep it to myself?
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I think we've all been in this type of situation before. I have a boyfriend too although we weren't dating exclusively when I first met my sd we are now. At the time I was dating the two of them and trying to spread my time equally. Obviously I didn't tell my bf that I was a sugar baby until I was sure that we were going to be serious. It was hard to tell him about being a sugar baby since I thought he would be really grossed out or even say that it was cheating but I think he understands better now. At the time we did get into lots of fights about it where he wanted me to quit but once I explained myself and told him that I cared about my sugar daddy too. It's like an open relationship but also has many added perks to it and one of them is that I can use the money to spoil my bf a little. My sd doesn't mind either since he has a wife. I don't think that you should feel guilty about having a bf but maybe lying about it isn't the best way? -
Are you planning on telling him that you are a sugar baby? If you aren't planning on telling him then I don't really see a problem with it. The 10,000 mile rule or the state rule applies here. Heard about that one? That means that if you are far enough away from your boyfriend then it doesn't count. At least twice in my dating life I have dated 2 guys at the same time and at least one of those was a sugar daddy. I didn't see a problem with it since there was no chance of either of them finding out. If you boyfriend likes to surprise you then you should just tell him that you're busy and that planning your dates is easierComment
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Yeah if you are worried about them finding out then I can see why you'd be feeling the way that you do but otherwise I don't think it's a big problem. I know that you're worried about your boyfriend finding out so maybe you should just tell him. It might help you feel less guilty and not like you're hiding secrets from him. But I really don't think that you have to eitherComment
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I feel like I am cheating on my boyfriend by being with my sugar daddy though. I know that I shouldn't really but I can't help it. I still really love my boyrfriend and want our relationship but it feels like it's impossible to do it the way that it is now. What should I do?Comment
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Can I step in here? I wanted to reply earlier but I missed my chance lol I think that you can have both here. Nobody is making you choose between your boyfriend or your sugar daddy. You said it yourself that your boyfriend is long distance so it's easy to keep it from him if you have to. As long as you figure out the timeline then you can keep your boyfriend from ever finding out. Nobody says that you are going to stay with either of them forever so there's no reason to really rock the boat or damage your relationships if you don't have to. I think that you need to just figure out how to make it work with both of them. You can do that if you schedule the time together. Also, I'm sorry but if you really loved your boyfriend and felt that way about him then you never would've been a sugar baby in the first place. You know what that means and what that would mean for yoru relationshipComment
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I mean that could happen in any situation too. You can also do some things to make it easier for that not to happen. It just takes really good time management skills. When you find an SD who will take care of you and who is serious about you then you can definitely live your life that wayComment
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I don't know..it seems like you're feeling really guilty about this when you don't have to. I think that you just need to relax and stop worrying about it or you're not going to be having a very good time as a sugar babyComment
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If you're feeling guilty that you have a sugar daddy, then you have to choose which one is more important for you. Your boyfriend or your sugar daddyComment
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You need to choose between the two of them soon before your boyfriend finds out that you have a sugar daddy. Does your sugar daddy know that you have a boyfriend?Comment
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She's right and you can tell him the reason why you have a sugar daddy. But I think that he wouldn't understand your reason in having a sugar daddyOriginally posted by NotoriousMOM View PostComment
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Confession, all of my exes don't know i'm into this kind of lifestyleComment
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I have told a soul about the sugar baby life and I probably never will. It's something I will take to my graveComment
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